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The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the past fifteen years of the New York Times "Modern Love" column--including stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man's promising fourth date ends in t The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the past fifteen years of the New York Times "Modern Love" column--including stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man's promising fourth date ends in the emergency room. A female lawyer with bipolar disorder experiences the highs and lows of dating. A widower hesitates about introducing his children to his new girlfriend. A divorc�e in her seventies looks back at the beauty and rubble of past relationships. These are just a few of the people who tell their stories in Modern Love, Revised and Updated, featuring dozens of the most memorable essays to run in The New York Times "Modern Love" column since its debut in 2004. Some of the stories are unconventional, while others hit close to home. Some reveal the way technology has changed dating forever; others explore the timeless struggles experienced by anyone who has ever searched for love. But all of the stories are, above everything else, honest. Together, they tell the larger story of how relationships begin, often fail, and--when we're lucky--endure. Edited by longtime "Modern Love" editor Daniel Jones and featuring a diverse selection of contributors--including Mindy Hung, Trey Ellis, Ann Hood, Deborah Copaken, Terri Cheney, and more--this is the perfect book for anyone who's loved, lost, stalked an ex on social media, or pined for true romance: In other words, anyone interested in the endlessly complicated workings of the human heart.


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The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the past fifteen years of the New York Times "Modern Love" column--including stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man's promising fourth date ends in t The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the past fifteen years of the New York Times "Modern Love" column--including stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man's promising fourth date ends in the emergency room. A female lawyer with bipolar disorder experiences the highs and lows of dating. A widower hesitates about introducing his children to his new girlfriend. A divorc�e in her seventies looks back at the beauty and rubble of past relationships. These are just a few of the people who tell their stories in Modern Love, Revised and Updated, featuring dozens of the most memorable essays to run in The New York Times "Modern Love" column since its debut in 2004. Some of the stories are unconventional, while others hit close to home. Some reveal the way technology has changed dating forever; others explore the timeless struggles experienced by anyone who has ever searched for love. But all of the stories are, above everything else, honest. Together, they tell the larger story of how relationships begin, often fail, and--when we're lucky--endure. Edited by longtime "Modern Love" editor Daniel Jones and featuring a diverse selection of contributors--including Mindy Hung, Trey Ellis, Ann Hood, Deborah Copaken, Terri Cheney, and more--this is the perfect book for anyone who's loved, lost, stalked an ex on social media, or pined for true romance: In other words, anyone interested in the endlessly complicated workings of the human heart.

30 review for Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption

  1. 5 out of 5

    emma

    Books are better than everything for a million reasons but the number one reason they’ll forever be the best form of content? NO PAYWALL. I just read a couple dozen New York Times articles with no subscription, baby. That’s the best thing about this book. I get to cheat the system. (Don’t ask me about how much I paid for it. Let me have this.) The second best thing, you may ask? I love people’s stories. It’s why I devour memoirs of people I know and don’t, why I search for money diaries and Grub Str Books are better than everything for a million reasons but the number one reason they’ll forever be the best form of content? NO PAYWALL. I just read a couple dozen New York Times articles with no subscription, baby. That’s the best thing about this book. I get to cheat the system. (Don’t ask me about how much I paid for it. Let me have this.) The second best thing, you may ask? I love people’s stories. It’s why I devour memoirs of people I know and don’t, why I search for money diaries and Grub Street Diets and long-form articles about falling-apart friendships and revelations, why my online correspondences quickly either die or become very deep. It’s why I read. I especially love love stories, because of course I do. They’re the best kind of story. Missed connections rediscovered? I’m in. Longtime friends becoming crushes? YES. A person you saw every day on the subway / in the coffee shop / across the hall who you then don’t see for years and then suddenly see again in a random place?! SIGN ME UP! Like I said. The best kind of story. But not just romantic love - family love, platonic love, every kind. Which is why this book is such a dream. That and the lack of paywall. Bottom line: Can someone just start giving me NYT articles in book form? Thanks. I’m cheap. ----------- okay so maybe humanity isn't ENTIRELY a garbage fire. review to come / 4 stars ----------- dear this book, i'd like my faith in humanity restored, please. sincerely, me

  2. 4 out of 5

    Larry H

    Boy, did this book hit the spot so perfectly!! "Because real love, once blossomed, never disappears. It may get lost with a piece of paper, or transform into art, books, or children, or trigger another couple’s union while failing to cement your own. But it’s always there, lying in wait for a ray of sun, pushing through thawing soil, insisting upon its rightful existence in our hearts and on earth." A column that has appeared in the New York Times since 2004, "Modern Love" is an exploration of Boy, did this book hit the spot so perfectly!! "Because real love, once blossomed, never disappears. It may get lost with a piece of paper, or transform into art, books, or children, or trigger another couple’s union while failing to cement your own. But it’s always there, lying in wait for a ray of sun, pushing through thawing soil, insisting upon its rightful existence in our hearts and on earth." A column that has appeared in the New York Times since 2004, "Modern Love" is an exploration of love in its many forms—romantic, familial, filial, platonic—and the way it is manifested both positively and negatively. This book is a collection of those columns. Some hit more common themes—rebuilding after a relationship or marriage ends, the excitement and despair of dating, dealing with parental disapproval, getting a second chance at love. Others are more unusual—the woman bringing her husband (soon to become her wife) to the first stage of gender reassignment surgery, the woman writing an "ad" of sorts to find her husband a new love after her impending death, the fears of a mother of a teenage boy with autism as he begins seeing girls in a romantic and sexual way. The columns differ in length, style, tone, and topic, yet there is beautiful emotion in each one. Some made me smile, some made me cry, and some made me wonder just where these writers who shared such a moment of their lives are now. Some are written by well-known people (there's a column by Andrew Rannells he published in his own memoir earlier this year) and some are written by "everyday" people. I devoured this book in a matter of hours, as it read like fiction. This truly was a special gem I’m so excited I stumbled upon. Perfect for those who love love, or the saps among us. See all of my reviews at itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com. Check out my list of the best books I read in 2018 at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2019/01/the-best-books-i-read-in-2018.html. You can follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/the.bookishworld.of.yrralh/.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Gabby

    This is one of the best nonfiction books I’ve ever read. I’m fascinated by love stories of all kinds, and this book really is inspired by modern love. It’s true stories (that are apparently based off a podcast) which are all written about people’s real experiences with love. And not just romantic love, but the love of a parent, a child, and not even all the good - but all the bad and the ugly and the heartbreak too. These stories are divided into sections: so we get stories specifically about fi This is one of the best nonfiction books I’ve ever read. I’m fascinated by love stories of all kinds, and this book really is inspired by modern love. It’s true stories (that are apparently based off a podcast) which are all written about people’s real experiences with love. And not just romantic love, but the love of a parent, a child, and not even all the good - but all the bad and the ugly and the heartbreak too. These stories are divided into sections: so we get stories specifically about first loves, heartbreaks, family, serious illness, divorce, adopting children, just all kinds of very interesting topics are covered in this collection of stories. Some of these stories were skippable and forgettable for me, but some of them actually made me cry???? and some of them were just fascinating and really incredible stories. My personal favorite story in this entire collection is The Race Grows Sweeter Near It’s Final Lap I fucking cried and it was the sweetest thing I’ve ever read. Some of my other favorites were: Now I Need A Place to Hide Away and You May Want to Marry My Husband Some other stories that I found absolutely fascinating were: My Husbands is Now My Wife which is about a woman who was married to a man for eight years when he finally told her he is a woman, and begins his transition. Another very interesting story was: First I Met My Children, The My Girlfriend. They’re Related about a guy who met his biological children after being a sperm donor in the 90’s, and finding his future wife through those kids. Overall, this was a very interesting and enjoyable collection of short stories of modern love - and I love that all kinds of love are explored in this, not just romantic love. I’m not usually a huge fan of short stories or nonfiction but I’m a huge lover of romance and love so I think that’s why I ended up enjoying it so much, plus there was just so many relatable quotes like the one below: ”For some reason I’ve always been susceptible to thinking my life would be vastly improved by the solution of a single problem. In high school, I thought, it will all get better when the braces come off, or when my skin clears up or when I go to college. And now, older and supposedly wiser, I find myself thinking it will all get better when I find romance. When I have a man who wants me despite how fallible, loud, or political I can be. Someone who, with a kiss, can snap me out of my self-pitying reverie. I think about how long I’ve been ready to find the beauty in another human being, to caress the scars of someone as flawed as me and to feel that person reciprocate.”

  4. 5 out of 5

    Reading_ Tam_ Ishly

    I simply could not enjoy this collection after two stories. It was kind of bland and abrupt. I couldn't continue reading this.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Literary Soirée

    HOW DO I LOVE THEE? As a former relationship coach who helped clients attract true love, I snatched up this amazing book in a sec — and I’m thrilled I did! Its stories of love and loss published originally as essays in The New York Times “Modern Love” column tickled, saddened, angered, perplexed, and exhilarated me. GOBSMACKED Two stories especially gobsmacked. Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s “You May Want to Marry My Husband,” urging readers to wed her perfect spouse after her impending death. And Ann Hoo HOW DO I LOVE THEE? As a former relationship coach who helped clients attract true love, I snatched up this amazing book in a sec — and I’m thrilled I did! Its stories of love and loss published originally as essays in The New York Times “Modern Love” column tickled, saddened, angered, perplexed, and exhilarated me. GOBSMACKED Two stories especially gobsmacked. Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s “You May Want to Marry My Husband,” urging readers to wed her perfect spouse after her impending death. And Ann Hood’s “Now I Need a Place to Hide Away,” on why she could not hear the Beatles, a once fave band, after her young daughter succumbed to virulent strep. But all enthralled, thus my highest applause for MODERN LOVE. 5/5 Pub Date 03 Sep 2019. Thanks to the editor, authors, Crown Publishing, and NetGalley for the review copy. Opinions are mine. #ModernLoveRevisedAndUpdated #NetGalley

  6. 4 out of 5

    Fareya

    A collection of heartfelt and unforgettable essays that reads like short stories and are life/love stories of real people! Every essay is in a different tone and style, plus it's not just about romantic love but that plus family, friend and filial love. Really, it doesn't even feel like reading non-fiction. I devoured it in a few days and would recommend it if short stories/essays are your jam! **A free finished was provided by Random House. All opinions are my own.**

  7. 5 out of 5

    Jenny (Reading Envy)

    This is a complication of Modern Love columns from the New York Times, in preparation of some Netflix show that comes out in October. I was a little disappointed by the sparse diversity but liked the variety of topics within love, from dating to marriage to divorce to children to loss. An easy read of short personal stories. I received a copy from the publisher through Edelweiss, and it came out Sept. 3, 2019.

  8. 5 out of 5

    BookOfCinz

    If you are like me who lives outside if the US and basically under a rock, the New York Times does a column called Modern Love. The book Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption is a collection of the some of the best essays that appeared in the column over the last ten years. This is an insanely cohesive, well put together collection of essays that explores modern love in the most hilarious, deeply personal, moving, vulnerable, and heartfelt way. I could not have enough of this If you are like me who lives outside if the US and basically under a rock, the New York Times does a column called Modern Love. The book Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption is a collection of the some of the best essays that appeared in the column over the last ten years. This is an insanely cohesive, well put together collection of essays that explores modern love in the most hilarious, deeply personal, moving, vulnerable, and heartfelt way. I could not have enough of this collection- I found myself crying at the end of some of these essays and it was beautiful! Modern Love... what does that even mean? Well, in this collection we are privy to all the various types of love and I think that is exactly what I loved about it. We see love explored in all its various forms, from young love, parental love, sibling love, gay love, redemptive love etc. There are so many different essays that I read and it really spoke to me on a deep level. Some of these essays captured what it is like for millennials dating and trying to find love and for me, it really helps to see I am not alone. Majority of these essays I lovr but my favorites were: Uh, Honey, That's Not Your Line The Five Stages of Ghosting Grief For Best Hookup Results, Use Your Words, Ok? When Cupid Is A Prying Journalist Hear That Wedding March Often Enough, You Fall in Step When Eve and Eve Bit the Apple Truly, Madly Guilty You May Want to Marry My Husband Adolescence without a Roadmap Something Like Motherhood I loved how vulnerable and open these essays were, from the women freaking out and trying not to stare at her phone after sending a sexy message to a guy she recently met who might have ghosted her. To the woman admitting that she loves her husband more than her kids (yes! you read that right!). To the mother trying to guide her autistic son to love because, adolescence is hard as it is. To the woman serving in church and being excommunicated from said church after falling in love with another woman.... y'all- these essays are profound and deeply moving. If you are looking for a great collection on love- THIS IS IT!!!! Thanks Penguin RandomHouse for this copy!

  9. 4 out of 5

    Fatma

    it was fine. i dont know, i found that most, if not all, of the stories weren't very memorable. nothing egregiously bad, but nothing impressionable either.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Madeleine (Top Shelf Text)

    Thank you to Random House for my free review copy! All opinions are my own. These essays are reflections on dating, marriage, and modern relationships between family and friends. No matter which season of life you’re in, there is an essay in this book that will make you smile, tear up, or laugh. I sped through this book and can’t wait to pass it on to my girlfriends. Highly recommended.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Basic B's Guide

    A collection of essays featured in the NY Times “Modern Love” column since its debut, this is now an original streaming series on Amazon Prime. Having a pretty traditional love life, I wasn’t sure how much I would relate to a book about modern love but boy was I wrong. Like most essays you will connect with some on a deeper level than others but the overall sense I was left with was that love is only fully achieved through vulnerability. We must completely surrender ourselves and often times at A collection of essays featured in the NY Times “Modern Love” column since its debut, this is now an original streaming series on Amazon Prime. Having a pretty traditional love life, I wasn’t sure how much I would relate to a book about modern love but boy was I wrong. Like most essays you will connect with some on a deeper level than others but the overall sense I was left with was that love is only fully achieved through vulnerability. We must completely surrender ourselves and often times at the expense of extreme emotional distress, but ultimately opening the door to the possibility of the best of love. Sometimes those times of pure blissful love are cut short but they will forever remain a part of us and will change us forever. One of my favorite essays was “The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap”. This is an essay about Eve and Sam who found one another later in life. Eve and Sam only had a handful of years together but because of the leap of faith she took she was happy for those years instead of lonely. Having both a father and grandmother who have lost their spouses and still have many years ahead of themselves, I find myself desperately wanting them to find love again. Don’t get me wrong, the last 6 years with my Dad in the dating world has been bananas. I can’t even get started on that but really all we want is for him to be happy. He can’t find my Mom again but he might be able to find a close second that still respects that he had another love of his life and has room in his heart for one more. “If I were Spock from Star Trek, I would explain that human love is a combination of three emotions or impulses: desire, vulnerability, and bravery. Desire makes one feel vulnerable, which then requires one to be brave.” So, my question to you is; have you been brave? Thank you @randomhouse for the free copy.

  12. 4 out of 5

    ashleigh

    The average rating I have each story was around ~3.84 I am marking as 3 stars though just because I really don't feel like any of them were that memorable. It was sweet, and some are moving, but overall it was just okay.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Rachel A. Dawson

    This one is a great collection of Modern Love columns (plz tell me you know about this column from the @nytimes or the podcast!!) — heart-wrenching, humorous, poignant, wistful, wise, and just so, so very human. These are stories of love gained and lost and everything in between, and they are such a beautiful picture of humanity and emotions and just life. Big fan.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Kris - My Novelesque Life

    RATING: 3 STARS 2019; Crown Publishing/Broadway Books This collection of essays are a revised and updated edition. It has been reissued for the release of the Amazon Prime show by the same name. While I am interested in watching the TV series at some point (it has amazing actors), it was not the reason I choose to read this book. I am interested in the personal essays surrounding dating, love, relationships and the psychology and science behind it. I am working on a writing project and am trying t RATING: 3 STARS 2019; Crown Publishing/Broadway Books This collection of essays are a revised and updated edition. It has been reissued for the release of the Amazon Prime show by the same name. While I am interested in watching the TV series at some point (it has amazing actors), it was not the reason I choose to read this book. I am interested in the personal essays surrounding dating, love, relationships and the psychology and science behind it. I am working on a writing project and am trying to read as much literature I can in the genre. I was also interested in this collection as they were published in a column called Modern Love. They are written by different writers (various years) with one subject in common, modern love. I went into the book with a higher expectation that I should not have had. I automatically get excited when a book I have not read gets turned into a movie/show. I think, wow this book must be amazing to be chosen. Sometimes just the idea is taken and it is super loose on the events in the book. Other times it tries to hard to be faithful and lacks the magic that imagination has. I have not seen the show (and may update my review once/if I watch it) so I can judge this book and it's writing. Like any collection, some essays were stronger than others - more entertaining, better written, etc. With a collection of various writers it can either be great as some authors will speak more to you than others, and it can suck as you only like one or two writers. In this collection, I started to read every essay but finished maybe 2/3 and liked 1/3 of those. I think as articles these would be more appealing, but as a book I just found them too much of the same and started to get bored. I tried to read them in chunks to get through the book quicker but it only seemed to slow me down as I was slower to pick it back up. I am a bit less excited to see the show now, but maybe the show just took the idea of the book, rather than the stories themselves. i>***I received a complimentary copy of this ebook from the publisher through Edelweiss & NetGalley. Opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.***

  15. 4 out of 5

    Olivia Garrett

    I flew through this book, devouring each sweet story. I loved it so much I couldn’t keep it to myself.. I read some essays aloud to the people I love, and I sent the link to about four people. I laughed, I cried.. So touching.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Mehrsa

    I love reading the Modern Love essays in the Times and it was nice to have a bunch of them compiled here. I had read a few of them, but not too many.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Ellie Straub

    Wow loved this one! Such a good collection of stories about love in its many forms. The Amazon series is amazing too!

  18. 5 out of 5

    Kloyde Caday

    As a hopeless romantic, I am a fan of the The New York Times’s Modern Love column. Not only do I read it monthly. I also listen to its podcast. Then the Amazon series adaptation (trivia: on my 26th birthday, my celebration was shutting off all my social media to watch the episode ‘Take me as I am, whoever I am,’ starring Anne Hathaway and bawled my eyes out, but don’t worry as the tears are more cathartic than it’s tragic.). It was a perfect companion to bring along during the month of February. As a hopeless romantic, I am a fan of the The New York Times’s Modern Love column. Not only do I read it monthly. I also listen to its podcast. Then the Amazon series adaptation (trivia: on my 26th birthday, my celebration was shutting off all my social media to watch the episode ‘Take me as I am, whoever I am,’ starring Anne Hathaway and bawled my eyes out, but don’t worry as the tears are more cathartic than it’s tragic.). It was a perfect companion to bring along during the month of February. Not gonna lie that that’s a challenging time for my mental health. True to its subtitle ‘True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption,’ the essays do not leave you brokenhearted. The writers may have led an imperfect, flawed life, but they’re generous enough to make meaning upon the harrowing experiences. I learned a lot through their journeys with their lost loves, impossible loves, filial love, all types of love. These are the following essays that stood out to me: The five stages of ghosting grief; Misery loved fried chicken, too; Loved and lost? It’s ok, especially if you win; When Eve and Eve bit the apple; You may want to marry my husband; When your doorman is your main man; The third half of the couple. I am not giving it a perfect five because there are a lot of more essays that should have been in the cut because they made me cry, imagine, and think of someone/something: Nursing a wound in an appropriate setting by Thomas Hooven, Out of the darkness by Mark Lukach, In Manila, two seasons, no regrets by Lauren Fantauzzo, and The 12-hour goodbye that started everything by Miriam Johnson. (Read these endearing essays too! And if you think there are any essays that should be included in this book, I’d be happy to receive your recommendation) This is one of my Feb 2020 reads, and I blogged this here: https://kloydecaday.wordpress.com/202...

  19. 4 out of 5

    Sydney

    Great collection ! Much diverse ! Love can grow in so many places ! If you want a cheat sheet, here's a list of my favorite essays from the collection that you can look up and listen to on the Modern Love podcast for F R E E: 1. At the Hospital, An Interlude of Clarity 2. The Five Stages of Ghosting Grief 3. No? No? No? Let Me Read Between the Lines 4. When Cupid Is a Prying Journalist 5. The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap 6. When Eve and Eve Bit the Apple 7. You May Want to Marry My Husband Great collection ! Much diverse ! Love can grow in so many places ! If you want a cheat sheet, here's a list of my favorite essays from the collection that you can look up and listen to on the Modern Love podcast for F R E E: 1. At the Hospital, An Interlude of Clarity 2. The Five Stages of Ghosting Grief 3. No? No? No? Let Me Read Between the Lines 4. When Cupid Is a Prying Journalist 5. The Race Grows Sweeter Near Its Final Lap 6. When Eve and Eve Bit the Apple 7. You May Want to Marry My Husband 8. Now I Need a Place to Hide Away 9. Two Decembers: Loss and Redemption 10. When the Doorman is Your Main Man

  20. 5 out of 5

    Steph

    This book makes your heart smile☺️♥️ Love takes form in an infinite number of ways and it was intoxicating to hear others’ experiences with love “We hoped the stories would explore the darkness as much as the light, plumb both the joys and the pain that spring from our lifelong efforts to be intimate with other human beings......Vulnerability is the animating quality of all love stories, and if can take many forms. In every case, though, vulnerability means exposing ourselves to the possibility This book makes your heart smile☺️♥️ Love takes form in an infinite number of ways and it was intoxicating to hear others’ experiences with love “We hoped the stories would explore the darkness as much as the light, plumb both the joys and the pain that spring from our lifelong efforts to be intimate with other human beings......Vulnerability is the animating quality of all love stories, and if can take many forms. In every case, though, vulnerability means exposing ourselves to the possibility of loss, but also-crucially!- to the possibility of connection. You can’t have one without the other.”- Daniel Jones

  21. 4 out of 5

    Kaitlyn

    At the end of the day, Love is Love, in all its complicated wonderful ness. And I am nothing, if not a sucker for love.

  22. 5 out of 5

    R

    Loved this book. Little snippets of people’s lives, and lives, in all forms. It’s also an Amazon Series. So I started watching and it’s interesting to see how the true stories were adapted for the series. I just started the series, but love reading the story that the episode is based on right before watching the episode. Such a perfect read before bed because they are bite sized stories. Took me way longer to read than it should have because of that.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Gail (The Knight Reader)

    There are a lot of essays in this collection. A LOT. Unfortunately, many were average and not very memorable. If you ask me about this in a week’s time I am pretty sure these few lines will be all I have as proof that I even read Modern Love. A handful of stories were touching (usually the ones that involved death), some read like self help (grrrr) and some could be skipped altogether. I’d recommend this collection be read in short bits, lest repetition and boredom may seep in. Overall impressio There are a lot of essays in this collection. A LOT. Unfortunately, many were average and not very memorable. If you ask me about this in a week’s time I am pretty sure these few lines will be all I have as proof that I even read Modern Love. A handful of stories were touching (usually the ones that involved death), some read like self help (grrrr) and some could be skipped altogether. I’d recommend this collection be read in short bits, lest repetition and boredom may seep in. Overall impression: Borrow. Divert money funds elsewhere.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Kristin

    Modern Love was exactly the kind of essay collection that I needed- so relatable! There are many different kinds of love and I thought that these stories did a great job at reflecting that. I appreciate that it focused more than on just romantic love. I wish I had known about The New York Times “Modern Love” column earlier because I love getting a look into the other people’s lives in this way. This essay collection made me feel a spectrum of emotions- everything from angry to grief. There were a Modern Love was exactly the kind of essay collection that I needed- so relatable! There are many different kinds of love and I thought that these stories did a great job at reflecting that. I appreciate that it focused more than on just romantic love. I wish I had known about The New York Times “Modern Love” column earlier because I love getting a look into the other people’s lives in this way. This essay collection made me feel a spectrum of emotions- everything from angry to grief. There were articles that were so relatable and I think most people would have experienced something similar. And there were also essays that downright broke my heart. One in particular titled You May Want to Marry My Husband was so devastating but also insanely sweet. Amy had a terminal illness and her essay was written like a dating ad for her husband. Just think about it makes me so emotional. There were a lot of other touching essays. Another one that stands out was written by a woman who brought her husband for a gender-reassignment surgery and explains how it felt for her to now have a wife- so powerful. I think that my only grip with the collection is that I wanted more. I could have done with more essays, especially more current ones. It seemed as though the majority of the essays were from around 2005 and in some ways felt a little dated. A lot has happened in the last fifteen years, and I think included more recent articles would have helped to reflect that. I guess that means I will just have to start reading the Modern Love column. I also want to mention that there is a TV series adaptation on Amazon Prime that I plan on watching! If you are interesting, I will write a review for that as well.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Shannon Whitehead

    While I live in the U.S., where the NY Times "Modern Love" column and new TV series are very popular, I wasn't familiar with either one until recently. I picked up this essay collection purely because I wanted to read about the ups and downs of love outside of my own life experience. I was sick of dwelling on my own heartache and wanted to hear about someone else's experience with love. That's exactly what I got—an honest, beautiful look at humanity and the ways that love (in its many forms) hurt While I live in the U.S., where the NY Times "Modern Love" column and new TV series are very popular, I wasn't familiar with either one until recently. I picked up this essay collection purely because I wanted to read about the ups and downs of love outside of my own life experience. I was sick of dwelling on my own heartache and wanted to hear about someone else's experience with love. That's exactly what I got—an honest, beautiful look at humanity and the ways that love (in its many forms) hurts us, confuses us, stretches us, delights us, and restores us. It's clear why these particular essays made the collection. They're breathtaking. They're well-written, vulnerable, and moving, which made for a tightly put together and heartwarming collection. By being so up close and personal, the essays express how love exposes us. By showcasing the stories of so many kinds of people, they symbolize how love helps us have empathy for those whose lives aren't like ours. I appreciated that the essays handled more than just romantic love. These real-life love stories are about a host of diverse, unique experiences, giving an intimate look at love when it meets mental illness, impending death, a transgender spouse, a special needs child, etc. There are essays about families and children, and friendships come and gone. And for every one of them, a striking portrait of how complicated life and love can be. I highly recommend it. Let's connect: Blog | Bookstagram | Twitter | Facebook

  26. 4 out of 5

    Janet

    When it is hot as heck outside and there is nothing cool to do but reading as everything else makes you end up a sweaty mess, it is the perfect day for a speed reader. I received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they do it better than I do 😸. The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the New Yor When it is hot as heck outside and there is nothing cool to do but reading as everything else makes you end up a sweaty mess, it is the perfect day for a speed reader. I received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they do it better than I do 😸. The most popular, provocative, and unforgettable essays from the New York Times “Modern Love” column—now revised and updated, featuring stories from the upcoming anthology series starring Tina Fey, Andy Garcia, Anne Hathaway, Catherine Keener, Dev Patel, and John Slattery A young woman goes through the five stages of ghosting grief. A man’s promising fourth date ends in the emergency room. A female lawyer with bipolar disorder experiences the highs and lows of dating. A widower hesitates about introducing his children to his new girlfriend. A divorcée in her seventies looks back at the beauty and rubble of past relationships. These are just a few of the people who tell their stories in Modern Love, Revised and Updated, featuring dozens of the most memorable essays to run in The New York Times “Modern Love” column since its debut in 2004. Some of the stories are unconventional, while others hit close to home. Some reveal the way technology has changed dating forever; others explore the timeless struggles experienced by anyone who has ever searched for love. But all of the stories are, above everything else, honest. Together, they tell the larger story of how relationships begin, often fail, and—when we’re lucky—endure. Edited by longtime “Modern Love” editor Daniel Jones and featuring a diverse selection of contributors—including Mindy Hung, Trey Ellis, Ann Hood, Deborah Copaken, Terri Cheney, and more—this is the perfect book for anyone who’s loved, lost, stalked an ex on social media, or pined for true romance: In other words, anyone interested in the endlessly complicated workings of the human heart. I love this newspaper column so was delighted to have spent this very hot and humid day with it! The essays were enjoyable and didn't read as a drudge column like my father usually hands to me to read to him so that was refreshing. The stories were wildly varying in their subject and writing style but nonetheless totally enjoyable - I look forward to the TV series!!

  27. 5 out of 5

    Bruin Mccon

    I used to read ML every week and even subscribed to the podcast for several months. A book is different. The only way i can explain it is tiramisu. You have one small serving, it’s the best ever. You eat a gallon of it and you’ll never touch the stuff again.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Kelly

    Living in the Midwest and not being a regular customer of the NYT, I had no idea that Modern Love was a column. But now that I do, I'll probably try to read it as often as possible. This collection of essays covers the very vast and malleable definition of what it means to love. There's platonic love, romantic love, unrequited love, love in the face of adversity, the ways that love can break us down and build us up. How we can still learn things, still find magic in relationships, after years of Living in the Midwest and not being a regular customer of the NYT, I had no idea that Modern Love was a column. But now that I do, I'll probably try to read it as often as possible. This collection of essays covers the very vast and malleable definition of what it means to love. There's platonic love, romantic love, unrequited love, love in the face of adversity, the ways that love can break us down and build us up. How we can still learn things, still find magic in relationships, after years of being together. The need, or lack of a need, to put a name to what you feel. How meeting and falling in love has changed over time (dating apps vs meeting out in the world). The ways love scares us, sometimes forces us to give up the things we love most because it hurts less than having that love taken from you. Finding love later in life, or after divorce. Love across boundaries: distance, physical ability, religious beliefs. That ultimately love is painful and joyous and something to be cherished, because love is a lot of things, but it isn't promised. I think this quote from Veronica Chambers' essay, "Loved and Lost? It's Okay, Especially if You Win" sums this book up nicely: "Making a fool of yourself for love is ultimately about you, about how much you have to give and the distances you will travel to keep your heart wide open when everything around you makes you feel like slamming it shut and soldering it closed." In a world that's become more visibly heartless, sometimes we need a book like this to remind us that we're not alone, and that love still exists and is something worth fighting for. Instagram | Blog | Twitter

  29. 5 out of 5

    Brittany J. (BNJreads)

    Thank you @randomhouse #partner for gifting me a copy of Modern Love by Daniel Jones. 🖤 After reading this book, I am so thankful to have found my person and still have him earth-side with me to make mistakes, grow with, change with, raise our babies and get the chance to do it all over again everyday. While I continue to hope that our love story endures all, some of these stories in this book don’t and that’s just real life. I enjoyed each of the stories and the many examples of love such as fam Thank you @randomhouse #partner for gifting me a copy of Modern Love by Daniel Jones. 🖤 After reading this book, I am so thankful to have found my person and still have him earth-side with me to make mistakes, grow with, change with, raise our babies and get the chance to do it all over again everyday. While I continue to hope that our love story endures all, some of these stories in this book don’t and that’s just real life. I enjoyed each of the stories and the many examples of love such as family, children, death, divorce and so on, but what is up with ghosting?? Can someone explain this? Have you ever been ghosted? Have you ever ghosted someone? I’ll definitely be on the lookout for further updates of this book as it’s made clear, we’re all doing this love thing differently!

  30. 4 out of 5

    Brenda

    i picked this book on a complete whim while browsing at my bookstore the saturday morning before last. i liked that it was pink and i liked that it was a collection by many writers. i've been having a hard time reading anything other than the temeraire series this summer (lmao) between starting a new job and moving and figured this would be a cute, easy read. oh was i wrong. it was neither cute nor easy but utterly devastating. it made me cry several times and reminded me distinctly that life is i picked this book on a complete whim while browsing at my bookstore the saturday morning before last. i liked that it was pink and i liked that it was a collection by many writers. i've been having a hard time reading anything other than the temeraire series this summer (lmao) between starting a new job and moving and figured this would be a cute, easy read. oh was i wrong. it was neither cute nor easy but utterly devastating. it made me cry several times and reminded me distinctly that life is fragile and uncertain. it made me want to hold my husband and not let him go for the next 40 years. my favorites were probably "sleeping with the guitar player," "truly, madly, guiltily," and the entire last section!

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