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Models is the first book ever written on seduction as an emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them. It's the most mature and honest guide on how a man can attract women without faking behavior, without lying and without emulating others. A game-changer.


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Models is the first book ever written on seduction as an emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them. It's the most mature and honest guide on how a man can attract women without faking behavior, without lying and without emulating others. A game-changer.

30 review for Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

  1. 5 out of 5

    Sviatoslav

    Whether you like it or not, we live in a world where men are seriously screwed up. From the early childhood we are being taught to please women. Most of us don’t have a healthy male role model to follow, our fathers are distraught and generally don’t care about their heritage. This is especially true for Post Soviet countries, where being sensitive for a man is almost a crime. So, while our fathers pursue career, sport, women or whatever else they find to be exciting, a lot of teen boys are left Whether you like it or not, we live in a world where men are seriously screwed up. From the early childhood we are being taught to please women. Most of us don’t have a healthy male role model to follow, our fathers are distraught and generally don’t care about their heritage. This is especially true for Post Soviet countries, where being sensitive for a man is almost a crime. So, while our fathers pursue career, sport, women or whatever else they find to be exciting, a lot of teen boys are left to themselves all the way to adulthood. There’s no way, other than to go down the road of error and trial. And, with women supervising that road, there’s always a reasonable amount of blame and shame waiting around the corner. With all that said, there’s no surprise with the fact, that majority of men have issues with women. Unbearable anxiety, fear of rejection and/or inability to have an intimate relationship. Will this book help you too get any woman you want? No, it won’t. This is not one of these cheesy pickup lines almanacs, that pickup community is notorious of. This is a self help book, not a Maxim 10 step guide to become an alpha male, the main point of which is too show, that approaching women is not about creating an alter ego or showing off like a clown, but resonating true intentions, emotions and vulnerability. The book covers a background of an attraction between men and women, and some of the statements are so profound and deep, that I’ve been constantly feeling an urge to make a bunch of stickers with quotes and put them all over my mirror. But it’s not only about a theory, the book carries a great deal of practical advices on approaching, communication, physical escalation, sex and other parts of the package. I wasn’t able to find a single contradictory fact, every single piece snaps into place perfectly. Well-written piece! Although it still just a book, it doesn’t make wonders. Whether it helps you or not depends on you and your commitment to self improvement.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Sean Goh

    A dating advice book that is applicable to life. Social status is determined by how you behave around other people, how other people behave around you, and how you treat yourself. Neediness is defined by being more highly invested in other people's perceptions of you than your perceptions of yourself. Humans are attracted to each other's rough edges. Intentions speak way louder than lines, it's about why you say it, not what you say. It comes down to what's being sub-communicated. When in doubt, A dating advice book that is applicable to life. Social status is determined by how you behave around other people, how other people behave around you, and how you treat yourself. Neediness is defined by being more highly invested in other people's perceptions of you than your perceptions of yourself. Humans are attracted to each other's rough edges. Intentions speak way louder than lines, it's about why you say it, not what you say. It comes down to what's being sub-communicated. When in doubt, check your intentions. True honesty is only possible when it is unconditional. The truth is only the truth when it is given as a gift. What's important is you expressing your truth, not the outcome. A non-needy man does not seek to impose himself on the boundaries of others, he's merely interested in maintaining his own boundaries. You cannot control what happens in every interaction. The sooner one accepts this, the better. Remove yourself from the equation. Don't make everything about you. Know what you want, so you can recognise it when it's in front of you. Contrast stereotypes to make a more lasting impression. (duh.) Ditch the rating scale. Instead of 1-10, switch to binary: Yes, or No. Being attractive requires being outstanding, being controversial. Rather than being boring. Reading more widely allows you to be able to relate to more people. Having an opinion will lift you above the plague of indifference in society. There's a certain baseline level of independence and self-sufficiency required from your lifestyle to be able to move forward. The only important skill in dating is learning how to stop buying into your own bullshit. (Intellectualisation, blaming, Blaming shifts the locus of control away from yourself, stripping your power from you. Challenge yourself to find the good and beautiful thing inside of everyone. It's your job to find it, not their job to show you. She's looking for the man who can make her feel more alive. Anxiety gives confidence when backed by competence, and hinders confidence without. Awareness differentiates social boldness from social disconnectedness. Acknowledge your behaviour as being bold, so your behaviour becomes a conscious choice to flout norms. Creepiness is behaving in a way that makes a woman feel insecure. Emotional connection is about feelings, not facts. Make statements, not questions. Avoid the interrogation. Share, instead. Never underestimate the power of non-sequiturs. Better random and interesting than boring and predictable.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Amber Lea

    This book was really solid until he got to the actual how-to advice at the end, and then it seemed kind of manipulative and gross, not to mention rapey. It is NOT a good policy to push ahead with women you hardly know until they force you to stop. DO NOT DO THIS. Always ask and anything less than an enthusiastic yes is a no. The first 180 pages or so of this book is excellent advice. Much better than the advice in The Game or No More Mr. Nice Guy or any other book I've read, and I want to tell This book was really solid until he got to the actual how-to advice at the end, and then it seemed kind of manipulative and gross, not to mention rapey. It is NOT a good policy to push ahead with women you hardly know until they force you to stop. DO NOT DO THIS. Always ask and anything less than an enthusiastic yes is a no. The first 180 pages or so of this book is excellent advice. Much better than the advice in The Game or No More Mr. Nice Guy or any other book I've read, and I want to tell everyone to read it but I'm kind of dumbfounded by the direction it took at the end. I can't even write a proper review because...wtf. I feel like there's a glaringly inconsistent attitude toward women. Like he's presenting himself as someone who thinks we're smart and interesting, and that dudes need to be honest with us, and that forming an emotional connection is rewarding and awesome, and then he's also like...yeah, they're kinda dumb and don't know what they want so just look hot, and change your body language, and stick it to them. Sometimes sexual aggression is hot, sometimes it's incredibly terrifying. There are a lot of factors at work, and you can only know if it's okay if you ASK. If that is what a woman wants...you should trust her to tell you, otherwise you are treading on dangerous ground.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Chuddchutney Buana

    Not too long ago I encountered a great article on the internet about John Lennon vs Trent Reznor and how their different fundamental view on love resulted in a different outcome. It is a nice and enlightening article. Less than two weeks after, I encountered another great article on the internet, about how we should not be worried about being an average person. Those 2 blog post are in no way perfect, but it does opened my eyes into seeing things from a completely different angles. The Not too long ago I encountered a great article on the internet about John Lennon vs Trent Reznor and how their different fundamental view on love resulted in a different outcome. It is a nice and enlightening article. Less than two weeks after, I encountered another great article on the internet, about how we should not be worried about being an average person. Those 2 blog post are in no way perfect, but it does opened my eyes into seeing things from a completely different angles. The interesting fact is that those 2 articles was coming from the same blog, from the same person by the name of Mark Manson. So of course I'm intrigued. Who's this guy? He's definitely a quite literate person (He quote authors like Tolstoy and Dostoevsky after all), and there's a raw psychological edge on his writings. For me, his writings are the Anti-Paulo Coelho. So it is only natural for me to googled him, only to find out that he used to be a....dating coach. WHAT.(Because if there's a dating coach and a politician in front of me and I have to choose one to hang out with, I will rather pick nearest rock and try to eat it whole). They said that you should never meet your idol. Well, in this case, you shouldn't have googled him But sure, as curiosity is in my DNA, so I dig deeper and got to know that he wrote some books, mostly on, well, dating advice. And this book appeared to be the most popular one (at least, that's according to all'of'you Goodreads folks. "Okay then", I think to myself, "let's see my recent favorite writer take on this field". And the result is a mixed baggage. The trace of his brilliant literary references is there. Also his psychological approach on the topic (loved how he keep mentioning along the book about "neediness" and "vulnerability". Although I also hated it how he keep mentioning along the book about "neediness" and "vulnerability". Okay I got it Mark, That's the holy grail). Overall, the book structure was okay, but it was VERY REPETITIVE, that I (along with the fact that this is a dating advice book, not some pulitzer prize winning novel) keep skimming it through. On the content, this is exactly why I despise this kind of book, It generalize things. It generalize things on a subject in which every other individual are different from the others. But still, guess this one is still a whole lot better that the other books about this, I assume (since this is Mark Manson and his writings makes sense). Shit. I have read a book about picking up chicks.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Simon

    Wow, just wow. This is so fucked up. Trying to benevolently overlook all that's bad about this, the author actually makes some good points (though if they're new to you, seek help). What's in Models? 3 main points: Be interesting, be interested, and don't be such a fucking retard. Can't argue with those except the author seems to think they are only important to connect with women... There is so much wrong with this book that I found it very hard to take seriously at all. Starting with the fact Wow, just wow. This is so fucked up. Trying to benevolently overlook all that's bad about this, the author actually makes some good points (though if they're new to you, seek help). What's in Models? 3 main points: Be interesting, be interested, and don't be such a fucking retard. Can't argue with those except the author seems to think they are only important to connect with women... There is so much wrong with this book that I found it very hard to take seriously at all. Starting with the fact that everything is repeated time and time again to make a book out of what should have been a short essay, to the author constantly telling me what I am like, what I want, and what I like, telling me what women are like (here's some news: Not all men are alike, and so aren't women), and basically projecting his issues on all of man-kind like a first year philosophy student, I found myself pressing the next page button at record speeds. Pro tip: You really only need to read the first sentence of every paragraph, and even those repeat. How shall I put this? It sounds like women are the only important thing in this man's life, to the point that I was constantly offended, because on every single page there is a bit that reminded me of how little the author must think of me because I was born with a dangly appendage. How am I supposed to take any advice from someone like that?

  6. 5 out of 5

    Amir Tesla

    Highly recommended to every straight guy. Powerful insights on what constitutes an attractive character.

  7. 4 out of 5

    Sandeep

    This is a must read book for any man who has struggled to connect with or communicate with women. I was recommended to read this book from a friend and I'm grateful he told me about it. Mark Manson's concepts on True Confidence, False Confidence, and vulnerability are very clear to understand to help a man be more successful in his relationships about women. The difference between True Confidence and False Confidence is the extent to which a man is vulnerable to his emotions and is able to share This is a must read book for any man who has struggled to connect with or communicate with women. I was recommended to read this book from a friend and I'm grateful he told me about it. Mark Manson's concepts on True Confidence, False Confidence, and vulnerability are very clear to understand to help a man be more successful in his relationships about women. The difference between True Confidence and False Confidence is the extent to which a man is vulnerable to his emotions and is able to share them with the women he pursues dating. This isn't solely a dating book, it's more of a starting point for a man to start living life more honestly. I wish I read this book when I started college because a lot of my failures with women were due to my neediness and putting them up on a pedestal. Manson warns about this behavior and gives sound advice on how to invest more into yourself, and not to others for approval, attention, or acceptance. Investment into oneself is a key point Manson drilled into me throughout the book and is something I think about every day. It is what has made me get rid of bad habits and encouraged to read more. I'm glad I realize this now as a young man because the more I invest in myself, the more I can give to a future relationship and bring value to it. Also another key point Manson taught me was that being controversial/you're ability to polarize women is essential if you want to be a man of True Confidence. This was a idea I was aware before I read the book, but Manson gives solid advice on how you can polarize women without offending them by being honest and vulnerable. His suggestion to approach women as a "1" (I am interested to meet this woman) or a "0" (I'm not interested to meet this woman) in public has surprisingly led me to not be afraid to say what's on my mind and feel any approach anxiety. Also he suggests that any woman you find attractive as you walk into any public setting, make an effort to ask them a simple question or something mundane like "where can I find this?" or even "how's your day?" Just by following such simple advice it has helped me be more open to women and even lead me to go more dates because I'm progressively desensitizing to approaching women in a honest, vulnerable, and confident way. Manson effectively organizes the book by the categories Honest Living, Honest Action and Honest Communication. He mentions that a goal for a man with True Confidence is to be adequate in all three areas. Honest Living deals with the fact that a man should first be in a career/job field he enjoys. Honest Action deals with how the man can be more honest, vulnerable, and open with his emotions to women. Honest Communication is effective the man is in polarizing women and being clear with his beliefs and not compromising himself to impress women. This book is highly recommended for any man who is serious on improving his dating lifestyle and his life in general. It will encourage you to invest in yourself and be more vulnerable.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Ido

    When in doubt Check Your INTENTIONS צפו בוידאו סיקור :-) As a former performer (pick-up), this book saved my life just in time. As a kid I knew that being more real and vulnerable is the right way to have a healthy and fulfilling relationships, and I did have, as a kid. With more and more poisonous pressure from the majority of my peers at middle school, to make chatting with girls a challenge, I was persuaded to think that I WASN'T RIGHT. They were, of course, pushing around MANIPULATIVE When in doubt Check Your INTENTIONS צפו בוידאו סיקור :-) As a former performer (pick-up), this book saved my life just in time. As a kid I knew that being more real and vulnerable is the right way to have a healthy and fulfilling relationships, and I did have, as a kid. With more and more poisonous pressure from the majority of my peers at middle school, to make chatting with girls a challenge, I was persuaded to think that I WASN'T RIGHT. They were, of course, pushing around MANIPULATIVE RELATIONSHIPS but I couldn't tell the difference then. So, I became manipulative as well and suffered for it. Because my nature is not manipulative, I took every course you can imagine (Pick-up, How to, lines etc..) out of sheer neediness for something I used to have as a kid, a fulfilling relationships. One cannot get that in the wrong route, a Manipulative Relationships. Thus, I didn't get to have real love in spite of my efforts (or perhaps - because of them). Models will take you through the why and how society influenced us to be unnaturally needie for girls, and how to overcome the "WHAT IS RIGHT" and have more control and creativity in choosing your own path in finding love, even in a one night stand. It's not the convenient book about how to get girls it's a book about emotional development or at least awareness, and how to make the quest for intimacy and love as natural as breathing. In this book I've also learned to quit spending time and money for the sake of others, and invest more and more in myself smartly. If I don't suffer I won't spend money on gifts and treats. Thus, save money for real purposes, and avoid those who want to be bought and manipulated. An amazing book every guy and girl should read. Models is probably the best book on the subject, because it's not ON the subject it's about how to MAKE the subject. רוצים לשמוע עוד? צפו בוידאו סיקור :-) Best of 2015.

  9. 5 out of 5

    Ilona

    From the first time I came across Manson's blog I though he might be my spirit animal since he gives a great advice on life and how not to be a needy crazy bitch-person. I am less of a needy crazy bitch-person because of his writings and I am definitely grateful for that. Having in mind that I am not the target audience for Models, it might be unsurprising that the book didn't strike the chord as eye-opening. It was quite interesting to know a bit more about the possible mindsets - it seems that From the first time I came across Manson's blog I though he might be my spirit animal since he gives a great advice on life and how not to be a needy crazy bitch-person. I am less of a needy crazy bitch-person because of his writings and I am definitely grateful for that. Having in mind that I am not the target audience for Models, it might be unsurprising that the book didn't strike the chord as eye-opening. It was quite interesting to know a bit more about the possible mindsets - it seems that the target of Models is living in a world full of identity crisis based on shitty advice and unleveled/biased expectations. Which was sad, because the apperently a revolutionary book is based on idea that women are humans as well as men. I literally quote the book: "Women are people, too." It's very unsettling to know that its not common knowledge. In any case, it is nice to know that compared to 2005, less people are looking stereotypically into other people and try to keep contact with them based on mutual interests, respect and humor, while at the same time improving their communication and other skills. Hope this tendency will keep up.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Michael Britt

    This was a thoroughly enjoyable listen. It deals a lot with accepting rejection, how to be more honest (obviously) and why being honest and vulnerable can be helpful. It also deals with the mistakes you're making, in your personal life and when trying to find a woman to meet. I really wish I would've read this book when I was 20. Ya live and learn

  11. 5 out of 5

    Joe

    As far as dating/seduction books go, this is one of the most realistic and down-to-earth. Less about having "game" and more about living as authentically as possible.

  12. 4 out of 5

    Kaj Sotala

    Conflicting feelings. Had a lot of good stuff, but at the end there was some advice that left me deeply uncomfortable: "The general principle at work here is that you want to gently push things towards sex until she says stop. If she doesn’t say stop, keep going. [...] ...our general guideline here is that we continue until a woman makes us stop. This means she physically stops you – i.e., moves your hands off of her, moves away from you, puts her clothes back on, etc. – or clearly and verbally Conflicting feelings. Had a lot of good stuff, but at the end there was some advice that left me deeply uncomfortable: "The general principle at work here is that you want to gently push things towards sex until she says stop. If she doesn’t say stop, keep going. [...] ...our general guideline here is that we continue until a woman makes us stop. This means she physically stops you – i.e., moves your hands off of her, moves away from you, puts her clothes back on, etc. – or clearly and verbally says, “STOP!” or “NO!”" That's... not cool in my book. I'd much rather have a culture of enthusiastic yes, even if it causes people to get laid less often. Overall there was a lot that I liked about the book, so I don't want to give it a low score just because of the end, but because of the end I don't feel comfortable giving it a high score either. I'm just going to go with no numerical rating.

  13. 5 out of 5

    William Girdler

    I have no intention of being a pickup artist or really ever talking to anyone or ever leaving the house....but there's some good stuff in this book. It mostly boils down to don't be a piece of shit. It primarily talks about how the most unattractive things a guy can be are needy or narcissistic. And then talks about how to identify those tendencies in oneself and how to deal with them. And like his other book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, Manson does a fantastic job of being pragmatic and I have no intention of being a pickup artist or really ever talking to anyone or ever leaving the house....but there's some good stuff in this book. It mostly boils down to don't be a piece of shit. It primarily talks about how the most unattractive things a guy can be are needy or narcissistic. And then talks about how to identify those tendencies in oneself and how to deal with them. And like his other book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, Manson does a fantastic job of being pragmatic and honest with his readers and offers good solutions. This book wanders into territory that isn't something I particularly care about, but even then it's still good and well written. This book never went into offensive moral territory or treated girls like prizes which I quite liked. And honestly I could see how it could change the opinions of some misogynistic wanna be players who stumble on this book so as a whole I think it's nice. I guess for someone who doesn't date this is about as helpful as a dating advice book could possibly be and I think fans of Subtle Art will quite like it.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Ryan

    I realise now the objective of this book wasn't for me. it's not particularly badly written, in fact if you want this sort of picking up woman self help book this should probably be towards the top of the list. That being said, I personally found it far too preachy and ended up being the step by step guide it at first promised not to be. I'm now an expert in exactly when to stop talking to woman immediately when they're not interested in a sexual relationship, what to wear to attract woman and how I realise now the objective of this book wasn't for me. it's not particularly badly written, in fact if you want this sort of picking up woman self help book this should probably be towards the top of the list. That being said, I personally found it far too preachy and ended up being the step by step guide it at first promised not to be. I'm now an expert in exactly when to stop talking to woman immediately when they're not interested in a sexual relationship, what to wear to attract woman and how to schedule masturbation to optimise myself for woman. I realise now I really didn't want to be an expert in these things...

  15. 5 out of 5

    Saeed

    Amazing and so funny and well-written book about seduction. Highly recommended for everybody.

  16. 5 out of 5

    J.

    This book is an incredible read for those who want to be successful and confident with women! Earlier in the year I was in the middle of a promising friendship that was on the cusp of forming into a relationship, sadly as time went on the amazing connection I had faded away this prompted me to examine why and what made this happen. Before reading this book I thought the ending of this amazing connection was rooted in problems in the last 2 weeks, but after reading this book I realized the seeds This book is an incredible read for those who want to be successful and confident with women! Earlier in the year I was in the middle of a promising friendship that was on the cusp of forming into a relationship, sadly as time went on the amazing connection I had faded away this prompted me to examine why and what made this happen. Before reading this book I thought the ending of this amazing connection was rooted in problems in the last 2 weeks, but after reading this book I realized the seeds of this connection being undone was cast much earlier than that. As a Practicing Catholic, I am called to teeter-tooter between that fine line between Lust and Prudishness so that I might find a Loving Relationship. This book because it is grounded in Self-Mastery and Self-Respect actually sets a tone that rises higher than most raunchy pick-up artists, for in here I am surprised at how the author encourages long-term emotional involvement both out of practicality and ethical reasons. Granted, certain suggestions exceed the bound of the life I seek to live, but it is my belief that this book has a comparatively Higher Degree of Assimilation to a practicing religious individual. Gone are all the silly formulae and rigid formalities of old pickup artists, Gone also are all the feelings of Neediness and Dependence, Gone also are all the Guilts, Rejections, and Remorse. This author makes the point clear that only through not caring about "getting laid" and focusing beyond it will you ever have hope of being the Man who Women want to be around. The authors sense of realism is astonishing!

  17. 4 out of 5

    Semina

    As obvious as it is that I'm not a guy who needs help with the ladies, I reasonably enjoyed this book and picking up women. When I first read The subtle art of not giving a fuck I found Mr Manson quite funny and engaging. He had a lot of good points about life and I really liked his writing style, so I figured I would give Models a go as well. In the first three-quarters of the book, he gives quite reasonable advice, even though some of them are a little strange, but they do make sense. For As obvious as it is that I'm not a guy who needs help with the ladies, I reasonably enjoyed this book and picking up women. When I first read The subtle art of not giving a fuck I found Mr Manson quite funny and engaging. He had a lot of good points about life and I really liked his writing style, so I figured I would give Models a go as well. In the first three-quarters of the book, he gives quite reasonable advice, even though some of them are a little strange, but they do make sense. For some reason, he writes like he is talking to oblivious idiots and I would say that it really gives an insight into the modern and western perception of masculinity, even more, the masculinity of North America. I especially enjoyed the part where he gives advice on grooming and reading. I listened to this as an audiobook produced by the author himself and I think he read the whole thing in one go because after the second hour it's obvious that he's getting tired and that he can't read properly anymore. He also sounded incredibly bored at times which in turn made me bored as well.

  18. 4 out of 5

    DeFlow

    A good book disguised about a book of how to be attractive to women, that actually focuses on how to be honest and direct to yourself and others and live your life with passion. Main take-aways are that women are attracted to high-status men who invest more in themselves than they do in the first beautiful women they come across. So invest in yourself, in your passions and live your life for no-one but yourself. Be honest about your intentions and don't let your confidence hinge on whether she A good book disguised about a book of how to be attractive to women, that actually focuses on how to be honest and direct to yourself and others and live your life with passion. Main take-aways are that women are attracted to high-status men who invest more in themselves than they do in the first beautiful women they come across. So invest in yourself, in your passions and live your life for no-one but yourself. Be honest about your intentions and don't let your confidence hinge on whether she likes you or not. Good book for the (insecure) man who lives his life living up to others' expectations.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Šimon Demočko

    When I was growing up, after breaking up with my first girlfriend I thought I have to get to the bottom of this stuff. Awkward adolescence of a skinny dude with nerdy hobbies but a persistence in problem solving lead me to read lots of material on this. I followed the works of a few pick up artists, but it left me all disappointed. There was a lot of truth to it all, yes, but there was also a lot of pressure to learn some behavior which just seemed like dishonest performance. Being dishonest When I was growing up, after breaking up with my first girlfriend I thought I have to get to the bottom of this stuff. Awkward adolescence of a skinny dude with nerdy hobbies but a persistence in problem solving lead me to read lots of material on this. I followed the works of a few pick up artists, but it left me all disappointed. There was a lot of truth to it all, yes, but there was also a lot of pressure to learn some behavior which just seemed like dishonest performance. Being dishonest with who I felt I was. I gave up on the materials years ago, since love/sex life was going okay even without trying to hack it. However a friend brought up Mark in a conversation insisted this book was really really good and that its full of perspectives which go beyond the goal of having success with women. And I already read some Mark's blog and lately randomly his book The Subtle art of not giving a f*** and realized he has very intriguing writing style and his insights were deep, very much in sync with buddhistic philosophies I got interested in. So I gave it a go. And I loved it. I wish this was the first book I'd read as an adolescent about this. It would definitely be the last one. Manson is successful in helping you realize the values women find generally attractive and actually gives pointers to how to develop a better self, which naturally brings results, without forcing you to do anything specific (well yes, he does tell you to wear good clothes, take care of your fitness and have social hobbies. But if you consider that not being the real you, maybe think about why a girl would pick you in the first place). He promotes honesty as the primary principle to build your (love) life around. Be vulnerable, honest in your intentions, honest in action, communication and live an honest life (in sync with your values and desires) and this in itself will bear the sweet fruit of deep connections with the women waiting for you out there.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Yan

    When I 15 and had completely no experience with girls, my friend recommended The Game. At the time, I thought it was great book on getting girls, only as I mature did I realised that it was not actually good advise but instead a cautionary tale. After a break-up, I wondered if there's book out that helps you attract women without changing yourself into something you wouldn't like. Apparently there's one. A few basic common sense is covered in this book such as: dress well, be confident, live an When I 15 and had completely no experience with girls, my friend recommended The Game. At the time, I thought it was great book on getting girls, only as I mature did I realised that it was not actually good advise but instead a cautionary tale. After a break-up, I wondered if there's book out that helps you attract women without changing yourself into something you wouldn't like. Apparently there's one. A few basic common sense is covered in this book such as: dress well, be confident, live an interesting life but the in-depth explanation he goes through with regards to confidence is eye-opening. There are different ways people have tried to be confident but it seems the way is to be vulnerable, which seems like a weird concept when most males think the ultimate man shows no emotions. I guess the main take away from this book is on how to connect and relate with women emotionally by opening up. In other words, attract women by allowing yourself to be vulnerable. I might change this review in the future, it's going to take a while to process a few things.

  21. 4 out of 5

    VC Gan

    My favorite aphorism from the book - `The only way to build true confidence is to build yourself.' A true relationship is not about erasing ourselves or attempt to change someone. This boils down to the core principle of you are enough and be yourself. It's about being strong in the body (exercise of any kind), constantly progressing in the mind (reading, getting a range of experiences by experimenting different things, getting out of your comfort zone) and developed in the spirit (meditation My favorite aphorism from the book - `The only way to build true confidence is to build yourself.' A true relationship is not about erasing ourselves or attempt to change someone. This boils down to the core principle of you are enough and be yourself. It's about being strong in the body (exercise of any kind), constantly progressing in the mind (reading, getting a range of experiences by experimenting different things, getting out of your comfort zone) and developed in the spirit (meditation and mindfulness, travel). I also like how this book emphasizes openness and vulnerability to create true connections rather than just being arrogant with negs, like other pickup books usually suggest. After all, relationship is all about being honest and respectful to each other. I honestly don't know how a man could read this book and not improve his life in some way from it. Without a doubt, this book is a necessity for every man out there.

  22. 4 out of 5

    Eddie

    Did I pick this book up because of the title? Yes. Did I pick this book up because I genuinely want to meet more interesting women? Of course. Does this book make me feel confident enough to do so? A definite yes. But with that said, what this book also did was enable me to take an even deeper look into myself. A more honest, profound look into the ticking of what makes me me as a man, a human and an evolved individual. I loved this book and never highlighted so much from one book before. I love Did I pick this book up because of the title? Yes. Did I pick this book up because I genuinely want to meet more interesting women? Of course. Does this book make me feel confident enough to do so? A definite yes. But with that said, what this book also did was enable me to take an even deeper look into myself. A more honest, profound look into the ticking of what makes me me as a man, a human and an evolved individual. I loved this book and never highlighted so much from one book before. I love straight talk. Especially when it is as real as this book was. I don't need flowery, tell me what I want to hear bull. Give it to me raw and honest. Just like my coffee, my alcohol and the advice you're either giving to me or going to hear from me. This book is a must read for almost any man. Even the men who seem to have it all-together. I can't recommend it enough. Great piece of work and I will reference this book often, maybe even daily. Fantastic stuff.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Michael Shore

    This book offers contradictory - if valuable - insight and advice. The first half of the book, which is mostly theoretical, is full of gems. Manson encourages radical authenticity, and criticizes the "typical dating advice books" for trying to teach guys how to "perform." Great so far. Then, Manson literally goes on to do just that. The 2nd half of the book is full of practical advice including specific regiments for things like how to dress to impress, how to approach, how to be funny, how to This book offers contradictory - if valuable - insight and advice. The first half of the book, which is mostly theoretical, is full of gems. Manson encourages radical authenticity, and criticizes the "typical dating advice books" for trying to teach guys how to "perform." Great so far. Then, Manson literally goes on to do just that. The 2nd half of the book is full of practical advice including specific regiments for things like how to dress to impress, how to approach, how to be funny, how to make conversation, how to make physical contact, how to escalate, etc. Ummm... this is precisely the kind of thing he was ceaselessly bashing. It feels as though Manson had a seizure midway through writing the book. Blaring inconsistencies aside though, the (first half of the) book is worth a read.

  24. 5 out of 5

    Juvoni

    Models encourages confidence through vulnerability and non-neediness, opening up yourself to share more while still holding onto your values and being self-reliant. Models is based on good intentions, as opposed to some other opportunities and manipulative dating books, so I resonated much more with Mark's principled approach, that aligned much strongly with personal development. The structure of the book was very easy to go through, with a blend of new and old topics that emphasize the core Models encourages confidence through vulnerability and non-neediness, opening up yourself to share more while still holding onto your values and being self-reliant. Models is based on good intentions, as opposed to some other opportunities and manipulative dating books, so I resonated much more with Mark's principled approach, that aligned much strongly with personal development. The structure of the book was very easy to go through, with a blend of new and old topics that emphasize the core parts of relationship building, and I felt myself finishing and wanted to immediately go back through the book.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Jay Yeo

    Read this after seeing it highly recommended on reddit. It did make me want to become more proactive in life and become more confident, but the premise of the book is basically to become good at approaching women through repeated practice. I have no intention of randomly picking up just any girl andor sleeping around, especially in a small community. It says nothing about developing and maintaining actual relationships beyond the initial contact part (well, technically I shoulda known that from Read this after seeing it highly recommended on reddit. It did make me want to become more proactive in life and become more confident, but the premise of the book is basically to become good at approaching women through repeated practice. I have no intention of randomly picking up just any girl andor sleeping around, especially in a small community. It says nothing about developing and maintaining actual relationships beyond the initial contact part (well, technically I shoulda known that from the title). Theory: 7/10 Applicability (in my context): 3/10

  26. 5 out of 5

    Jared Woods

    As embarrassing as this is: back in 2008 or whenever, I read Neill Strauss’ (really great) non-fiction book called The Game, and I got sucked into the hype just like so many before me. “You mean there’s a formula to hooking up with girls??” was my immediate response, and I soon became an avid follower of the PUA trail, devouring every text on the matter shortly following. Interestingly enough, however, I actually ended up getting laid a lot less. The reason why, I concluded, was that these As embarrassing as this is: back in 2008 or whenever, I read Neill Strauss’ (really great) non-fiction book called The Game, and I got sucked into the hype just like so many before me. “You mean there’s a formula to hooking up with girls??” was my immediate response, and I soon became an avid follower of the PUA trail, devouring every text on the matter shortly following. Interestingly enough, however, I actually ended up getting laid a lot less. The reason why, I concluded, was that these techniques are designed for people who have no personality nor social skills whatsoever, which is why I still feel like pick-up books have a valuable place in certain cases. But I’ve never really had a problem with women, and upon realising this, I promptly turned away from the silly seduction community forever, and never looked back. 10 years later, however, this Models book fell onto my radar as some brand new landmark approach, and I halfheartedly added it to my Amazon wishlist. Fast forward to Xmas 2016, and my Dad bought it for me (I’m assuming as a joke). Fast forward once again to exactly one year later, and I found myself single and a little discouraged by romance, deciding to pick it up out of some self-loathing curiosity. Thankfully, I quickly discovered this was not a PUA book in the slightest—or if anything, an anti-PUA book. No games. No tricks. No lines. It was fundamentally about shifting yourself towards an inner perspective of not giving a fuck, which is ideal, because I was never very good at giving a fuck in the first place. The key to this, according to Mr Manson, was to be completely honest at all times, in terms of communication, but also in terms of living the exact life you want, without any fear. Furthermore, it was about blasting every conversation with the most sincerest version of yourself, and in doing so, the listeners would be forced to form a speedy opinion of you, either opting to dismiss your shit, or show further interest. It also encouraged one to define optimal aspects of a partner, specifying exactly what you are looking for, not approaching the people who don't apply, questioning why you are attracted to those people who do, and finally, learning how swallow rejection instantaneously with respect. These were great to read, because they showed me what I had been doing right above anything I had been doing wrong, and I could feel a few screws in my brain tightening up from this validation. That said, it did come with one HUGE revelation which I’d never considered, potentially the #1 reason as to why all my former relationships have failed, in fact. You see, I met most of my exes in a party scenario, which is not ideal, as my perfect woman would be a workaholic borderline reclusive artist, and she’s not going to be at places like that now, is she? My demographics have been completely off all this time, and I now understand that I need to attend events where people like me will be socialising in order to find THAT girl. So simple. Why I never thought of it, fuck knows. So far so good! But then… it completely ruined everything by contradicting itself halfway through. After driving the point into my skull that I had to be genuine to myself, the book began to explain how to approach, how to communicate better, how to dress, how to stand, how to exercise, when to phone, how to date etc etc etc, all of which didn’t necessary gel with my own brand of honest Jared. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it was good advice, I took a lot of it on board, and I suppose any guide about attraction would be incomplete without these tips. However, it just felt wrong to me, like I was spiralling back into some run-of-the-mill PUA rubbish, and this totally put me off, because I have no interest in making any effort for anything whatsoever ever again. And then when he began to heavily suggest masturbation/porn restrictions... well, that’s none of your business, mate. Regardless, Mark Manson came across like the right dude for the job. His open honesty about his (often shameful) personal stories and his colourful I-don’t-give-a-fuck-attitude came through loud and clear on these pages, a convincing testament to the life he is preaching. Furthermore, in a self-help coaching genre which is notorious for its macho chauvinism, it’s clear how conscious he is of misogyny, placing much effort into promoting the respect and fair treatment of women, which is what this whole unsettling industry is generally lacking. Which is why I say (and I repeat) this is not a PUA book. It’s simply sold as such for financial purposes, and is instead much closer to a self development guide intended to evolve your mindset into one of blind earnestness, using the social dynamics between men and women as examples of how to do so. This notion is further solidified when considering his follow-up book, called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. That specific title has enjoyed even greater success for the author, as it obviously dives much deeper into the core concept of his teachings without hiding beneath some seduction tag, and I truly look forward to reading that too. What it finally comes down to, is this: pick-up books teach the same moves and the same lines to everyone, creating these generic carbon copies of men desperately running around with their cocks out, trying to remember their training on how to inflict manipulation on a girl who has already heard it all before. Models, on the other hand, could be read by everyone, and the results would vastly differ from person to person, as we are all different people, and should be nurturing that individualistic seed rather than rewiring our traits based on someone else’s results. My only real problem with this concept is one of a personal nature, for if I am to be completely honest with every girl I meet from now on, I’ll probably end up with some suicidal devil worshipping girlfriend, and that is not exactly what I need right now. I actually would never trust anyone who fell for me, to be fair.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Dimas Ahimsa

    This is the first time I buy the book on approaching women (before it, I bought the e-book by Ronald Frank. You know Ronald Frank, don’t you? Google it if you don’t), and I was satisfied. This is the most concise and the only book men need to get not only women, but also their life. Things covered in this book ranged from the fundamentals of what really attracts women and the difference between men and women perceive sexuality to the choice of lifestyle that that must be adopted by men to be This is the first time I buy the book on approaching women (before it, I bought the e-book by Ronald Frank. You know Ronald Frank, don’t you? Google it if you don’t), and I was satisfied. This is the most concise and the only book men need to get not only women, but also their life. Things covered in this book ranged from the fundamentals of what really attracts women and the difference between men and women perceive sexuality to the choice of lifestyle that that must be adopted by men to be attractive for women. I think this book really helps me to become more of who I really am. Unlike bunch of similar books on approaching women out there which try to its readers to become more like the author (wear Rolex, be extrovert, don’t show your true feelings blablabla), in Models, Mark introduced the theory of demography which means you attract what you like. For example, if you are a successful professional who goes to the gym every weekend and ambitious and work hard then you will likely attract the women with the same trait. That means you can’t attract any women you want to, but this also give you some advantages. It means that the women you attract will genuinely like you for who you are. The other thing Mark introduced here is the vulnerability or the willingness to be open to the women. Say what you fell, tell your true intentions, build an honest communication, and you will make a real honest, genuine connection with that woman. This is a great topic since many articles on approaching women try to convince you to look perfect in front of the women you encounter. So when you look cool, they will think that you are that guy. This is not good, because when you act different than the real you it means that you‘re not being honest, and if you can’t be honest with the women you cannot build a genuine relation with them. Despite of the good information, I think there are still existed here some missing points which the author did not provided: the source of the research. A lot of facts here says according to research, or one experiment says, etc. without mentioning which research and the source link for that. And, this is only my suggestions, I think It would be easy to read if in every chapter of this book the author put a point list of what were covered in that chapter. It will be much easier for the reader who wants to reread the topics without busily finding it sentence per sentence. All in all, Models is really a great book. If you find yourself difficult to act honest and want to improve your personal wholly, I would recommend you this book.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Ann

    I know I'm not the target audience, but I found it interesting nonetheless. This was the first of the real dating-advice kind of books I've read. I definitely appreciated the focus on being authentic and vulnerable, and the importance of polarizing. Manson suggests that we get comfortable sharing part of ourself and come up with 3 examples (that can each be talked through for about a minute) for each of the following topics: - passions and favourite things to do - dreams, ambitions, life goals - I know I'm not the target audience, but I found it interesting nonetheless. This was the first of the real dating-advice kind of books I've read. I definitely appreciated the focus on being authentic and vulnerable, and the importance of polarizing. Manson suggests that we get comfortable sharing part of ourself and come up with 3 examples (that can each be talked through for about a minute) for each of the following topics: - passions and favourite things to do - dreams, ambitions, life goals - best and worst things that have happened to you - childhood, family life, upbringing Talking about these things tend to elicit similar sharing from your partner. Always ask: what if it was a gift? Action plan (ch 18) ========== Fundamentals: 5/5 - join a gym (weekly habit) - upgrade wardrobe - get a nice haircut - job security/satisfaction - pursue 1 social hobby regularly (e.g. dance classes, join band, board games, etc) Meeting: 4/5 - figure out demographics - meet 5 people in 1 day - meet 20 people in 1 week - join online site and message 10 people - sign up for a speed-dating/singles even Getting to know: 2/3 - hold at least 3 30-min convos with new people you just met - get at least 3 phone numbers from people you just met - go on 2 dates Getting intimate: 2/3 - kiss 2 people - go on a second date with the same person - get someone home ... let's leave it there.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Greer H

    Even though this book is targeted at straight American men, I read it because in terms of dating, I'm a shut in and I don't want to be. The book starts out with really solid advice. Work on cultivating your interests, being confident in yourself, shape up your appearance, be polarizing (make people have an opinion about you!). However, towards the end it devolves into misogynistic drivel that don't necessarily help his point. And it's pretty rape-y Some gems: "As is often the case, women are Even though this book is targeted at straight American men, I read it because in terms of dating, I'm a shut in and I don't want to be. The book starts out with really solid advice. Work on cultivating your interests, being confident in yourself, shape up your appearance, be polarizing (make people have an opinion about you!). However, towards the end it devolves into misogynistic drivel that don't necessarily help his point. And it's pretty rape-y Some gems: "As is often the case, women are terrible authorities on WHY they like or dislike something, all they know is that they like/dislike it". Yeeks. Really? "Puns and wordplay also tend to be very intellectual. You'll find few women who appreciate them." Seriously? That's just misogyny. EVEN IF THAT WERE TRUE, if puns and wordplay are so important to him, it's HIS job to find those few compatible women. Finally: a lot of the time, especially towards the end of the book, he comes across as a self-aggrandizing, rich douche. He constantly brags about how he's picked up/slept with hundreds of women. As seen above, he also flips between "Respect women! Try to authentically bond with them!" and misogyny/seeing women as conquests. In summary, I think up to chapter 8 is really solid, and then the book is garbage

  30. 5 out of 5

    Taylor

    I was pretty embarrassed to read a dating advice book, let alone to put that I was reading one on Goodreads. But I had begun to notice a pattern in my dating experiences - many situations where people were interested in receiving my interest but nothing more substantial ever happened. A quick search revealed to me that most mens' dating advice books are 'pick-up manuals'. That wasn't what I wanted and Mark Manson promised the opposite. The real message of Models is that, as a man, you should be I was pretty embarrassed to read a dating advice book, let alone to put that I was reading one on Goodreads. But I had begun to notice a pattern in my dating experiences - many situations where people were interested in receiving my interest but nothing more substantial ever happened. A quick search revealed to me that most mens' dating advice books are 'pick-up manuals'. That wasn't what I wanted and Mark Manson promised the opposite. The real message of Models is that, as a man, you should be confident in yourself and your beliefs. If you try and change yourself for the people you meet, to try and interest them, you will not gain much, except for very needy people - precisely the people who had reappeared in my dating life for a while. On top of this, he gives a bunch of practical pointers about making yourself both more honest and less needy to others.

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